If you are preparing for your upcoming nuptials, you will know just how stressful it can be to organise a wedding. You only have a few people you trust to help you out with it – you know, people who just ‘get’ what you want your big day to be like. If you are anything like most women, that small list of people will probably include your husband to be. After all, how can you expect someone who still doesn’t use the laundry bin, to organise a wedding?! But, by getting your fiance involved you could actually save yourself a tonne of work – and help him gain a sense of accomplishment too. So what exactly can you leave to the groom, and what is it best that you stick to organising?
You might think that is a risky thing to leave your groom to sort out. But, as long as you chat to him about it first and impose some guidelines, there’s no reason why he can’t arrange the catering for your wedding. Plus, men like food – chances are he’ll be better at organising this side of the wedding rather than the decor! Encourage him to read reviews of local companies and chefs just to ensure that there aren’t any horror stories lurking anywhere. If you both love a certain cuisine, ask him to look at companies that specialise in that certain food. Leaving your man to organise the food will free up plenty of your time, so you can focus on other aspects of your big day.
When it comes to suits for the groom and his groomsmen, you might think you know better than them – especially if you help your partner with his clothes shopping on a regular basis. But this is one occasion where it is best if you leave it to him to sort out. The most important thing is that your groom feels comfortable and confident in what he wears on his wedding day. If you are hovering over the fitting, he may feel pressured to buy something that he thinks YOU will like instead. Plus, fittings are always supervised by an expert, who will be able to help you man choose the perfect suit. Suit fittings are also a bit of a groomsmen tradition, so it is best to let them have their boys time together!
The bridesmaid dresses
We’ve all seen the television show ‘Don’t Tell The Bride’, where the groom organises the ENTIRE wedding; including picking the bridesmaid dresses. Even if your man is a pretty dapper guy, he’s fairly unlikely to know much about women’s clothing. It is definitely better to follow your female intuition and choose your bridesmaid dresses with your girls in mind. You will be able to understand how they will fit and fall on a female body much more than your groom would be able to.
The finishing touches
In many cases, it is actually better to delegate some of the ‘bigger’ tasks for the wedding to your groom. This is because typically, men pay less attention to detail than women, especially when it comes to weddings. Your groom may overlook certain things to do with your wedding that might not seem huge, but that will certainly make a difference to the day. For example, he could forget to organise any flowers for decoration, or place names for the wedding dinner. If you have a very clear idea of the individual details you want to make your wedding special, it is best to organise these yourself.