Sensational Ways To Include Your Mother At Your Wedding

Brides generally come with an entourage of people in the lead up to the big day. Whether you are newly engaged, in the middle of prepping your wedding, or on the cusp of the biggest day of your life, you have very likely got a flock of people around you at your beck and call. That’s not to say you’ve turned into a demanding Bridezilla, ripping people to shreds with a mere cut of the eye. It’s just that friends, sisters, cousins, aunts, your soon to be mother in law, your mum…all these people PLUS hairdressers and make-up artists will be hovering round you and waiting for instruction. The most important person in that entourage is your mum. She’s been there from your first breath, first steps and first words. It’s only fitting that she should be there by your side to see you take the next set of first steps in your life: as a bride.

All the attention can get a little overwhelming, so take some time to step back and look at the big picture. Look at the women in your life who have come together from two families to make your day beautiful. Think about how you can honour what they’ve done for you. Perhaps your mum has been your automatic wedding planner, helping you write lists and making plans across a calendar so the timing is prompt and efficient. Perhaps she actually paid out for an actual band of Luxury Wedding Planners to take the stress out of your hands for your day. So how can you honour your mum on your wedding day? The day may be about you, but without her you wouldn’t be standing where you are now.

  • Get traditional on the day. If there’s a necklace, piece of precious jewellery or even a tradition that your mother hopes you could do for your wedding day, honour it. Wear the jewellery with pride and make it your ‘something borrowed’.
  • Get giggling! Prepare your wedding favours together, arrange freshly cut wildflowers together, take a calligraphy class to write place cards together. Any wedding job can have a fun injection just by sitting and being together.
  • Let your photographer know that there has to be a few photos of your mum and you together without anyone else in the picture. This woman brought you into the world and taught you how to do everything you know how to do now. Cherish that in print.
  • A special gift goes a long way. An embroidered handkerchief with a poem describing your love for your mother is a keepsake gift as well as a place to capture the tears.

Weddings are emotional ceremonies. It’s your day and about you as the bride, but don’t forget where you came from and how you got to where you are now. Even if your relationship isn’t the best friendship in the world, you can still include and be grateful for the mother you have by your side on your wedding day.

Do I need a wedding planner? A Simple Checklist

Some people assume that a wedding planner is only for the rich and famous. However, a professional wedding planner can not only create the magical day you are hoping for, but save you money too.

An objective person to help plan your wedding, a wedding planner will also take a lot of the stress and aggravation away from organising such a big day, sticking with what you want and making sure they deliver.

With wedding planning a growing and thriving industry, more people are choosing to complete NCC Home Learning’s Wedding Planner Course to help organise their own wedding but finding a lucrative career too.


But, how do you know if you need a wedding planner?

You want to hire a wedding planner

For many people, it is an obvious choice. With both of you busy working full time and all the other commitments you have, taking on such a big job as planning your wedding right down to the nuts and bolts of the big day seems like an impossible task.

Having someone who can complete everything to your specifications, wants, needs and budgets is something that you want to happen. With wedding planner courses being popular, it is no longer difficult to find a qualified planner within your price range either.

You need to hire a wedding planner

Organising a wedding, whether it is a huge affair with several hundred guests or a small, intimate one, can be a test of not only organisational skills but relationships too. Having someone there who is undoubtedly ‘on your side’, understands what you want and how to go about getting it, is surely something every couple needs when planning their big day.

Thus, if you are in panic mode you need a wedding planner more than you think:

  • You are way behind on the schedule

Many people assume that a wedding planner needs to be engaged right at the start of the process, little realising that a wedding planner can come on board at any point in the planning process.

In order for everything to be done in time, you need a schedule and a plan of action of who is doing what and when. If this schedule starts to slip, all those must-haves will turn into ‘if you can…’. If you are this point, look for someone who has completed various wedding planner courses and call them. Now.

  • You work full time

Time is short. There are times when you will need to meet with suppliers and so on which, when you work Monday to Friday, 9 to 5 can be very difficult. And in all honesty, you don’t have to meet everyone in person. Having a wedding planner meet the caterers and ensure that they can deliver what you need, within budget, is something that they do on a daily basis, almost.

  • Destination wedding

Some couples marry ‘on their doorstep’, that is, in their own town. This can be easier to organise as you are familiar with the area, suppliers and so on. When you choose to have a destination wedding, either abroad or at home, it means you are attempting to organise a wedding in a place where you don’t know any suppliers etc.

Choosing a wedding planner local to the area means that you get the best advice, suggestions and service.

  • Personality conflicts

As much as weddings bring people together, the planning and organising of the big day can be anything but harmonious. With everyone wanting a slice of the action, and their importance to the bride and groom visible to all, it can make for a rocky road. Or a tedious journey of constant compromise and diplomacy.

If you see the potential for this to happen – or it has already started – don’t allow yourself to be bogged down. Professionals with wedding planner courses under their belt will understand how to diffuse a situation, as well as maintaining their focus on what you want (and don’t want).

  • Planning and organising fills you with dread

There is no harm in admitting that organising, planning, schedules and so on are not your thing. If this is the case, why make yourself unhappy, uncomfortable and stressed before your big day?

Working with a wedding planner can take all the stress out of planning your big day so when your wedding morning arrives, you are fresh, happy and anticipate the day, rather than dreading something going wrong.

A wedding planner can be worth hiring for all kinds of reasons, from saving you money to taking the weight and strain of organising the minutiae off your shoulders.

Must-have vendors who get overlooked

We’ve spoken with a lot of brides over the years, and many tell us they’re cutting costs on three essential vendors.  Here’s why a professional photographer, hair and makeup stylist, and wedding planner are must-haves for a stress-free wedding day:

1. A professional photographer

Flowers crumble and cake dries, but wedding photos last a lifetime.  They’re the images your kids will flip through, and the pictures you’ll display on your 50th wedding anniversary.  This is one vendor you don’t want to scrimp on.

We emphasize professional photographer.  You may have a family member or friend who’s an aspiring photographer.  While you could hire him for free or almost nothing, you’re taking a huge risk.  Uncontracted photographers are not liable if your photos are poor quality or lost.  Your wedding day memories can easily turn into a nightmare.  Don’t risk a friendship in order to save a few bucks.  Make the sacrifice with the money and pay for a professional photographer who fits your personality and style.  Ensure that your memories are preserved forever with a photographer you can count on to deliver.

2. Hair and makeup stylists

The number one reason to get your hair and makeup professionally done?  Less stress.  Don’t let a bad hair day or messy makeup ruin your morning.  Hair and makeup is a way to pamper yourself before the wedding.  While you might be able to do your own day-to-day makeup, professionals know how to make it last from the first kiss to the last dance.  Plus your skin will be flawless in the photos.  Don’t look back at the pictures (taken by your professional photographer) and regret that you didn’t look your best.

If you’re going to splurge on one thing for your wedding, make it hair and makeup.  Take money from an unnecessary expense in your budget.  It’ll be well worth it.

3. Wedding planner

Whether she’s with you in the early planning stages or just on your wedding day, a wedding planner handles all the little details that easily get overlooked.  She’s organized hundreds of weddings, while you’ll only have one.  On the day of your wedding, you don’t want to worry about whether the caterer is on time or the décor is right.  A wedding planner ensures your day is stress free, coordinating all the wedding vendors for you.

As a working woman, you already have a busy life.  A wedding planner works with your schedule to ensure every aspect of your wedding day is perfect.  Let your wedding planning be a worry-free experience so you can focus on yourself and your upcoming marriage.  Wedding coordinators will help make your dream wedding a reality.

Photo by Braedon Photography.


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